My Approach

What’s it like to work with Janet?

An NLP saying is “what fires together, wires together”. In situations where an unwanted response has been paired with an everyday trigger, the hard work is the heavy lifting, often emotionally revealing, you will do within 1 ½ to 2 – hour individual NLP Coaching Sessions, or monthly if you are an executive working on life/career/organizational transformation and have decided on a long term coaching package.

Expected Results:

• Career changers or “tweakers” (professionals who essentially like their career but need to change something about how they are doing it) can expect to gain an extraordinary amount of clarity and a renewed lease on life through these programs. They will also upgrade their personal and professional network enormously, as the group programs create bonds between elite participants in strong and useful ways and individual programs emphasize network building.
• Professionals with a big dream or desire who keep getting in their own way will learn to get out of it. Self sabotage can be reframed and transformed when one honors and respects the parts that are creating an unwanted situation before seeking to redirect them.
• Regarding individual session work, my clients have reported seemingly miraculous results: panic attacks that diminished to the point of non-issue, phobias that no longer exist, personal “buttons” that can no longer be pressed, resumption of progress towards a goal by a procrastinator, weight loss, renewed optimism and satisfaction with life, anger under control or not triggered at all, life in balance, and full self appreciation otherwise known as happiness. Following the session(s) there is little to do except sleep and allow the neurology to re-adjust itself.
• If you are an ongoing executive coaching client we may decide on self reflection tasks or get momentum tasks to fulfill before our follow up call. But that is all on a case by case basis, the most important criteria being how do you stay in charge of your change.
• NLP, when practised elegantly and in full exploration of the context and life ecology of the situation, does work to resolve wiring issues like the ones mentioned above, and resolves them in such a way that the change is automatic and permanent; you do not have to remember to be different.
• Identity issues, like life balance and self care, may take longer to resolve as they involve overall life ecology and the hatching of a new identity that one gradually begins – not so much to grow into – but to discover or uncover. Small changes like “Hey, I said “no” to 3 people today and remembered to eat lunch” can and will be seen quickly.
• New or “people challenged” managers will increase rapport and communication skills through our trainings and will increase self understanding and and resultant empathy through one to one coaching sessions, which just makes you that much easier to be around.
• Managers and professionals with confidence issues will do individual NLP sessions to uncover and release old belief patterning and possible family loyalty limitations and with appropriate executive coaching will then create the step by step experiences which serve to create new learnings and imprints of confidence and self worth.
• Executives who are managing a business or personal transition and are utilizing ongoing coaching will gain a sense of camaraderie, that they are not alone in this, there is someone constantly reframing problems and helping you to shift to or stay in an empowered stance. By brainstorming regularly and having someone follow the story some of the best and most successful ideas emerge.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How I Work:

My ambition in every session is for all parts of my clients to feel honored and respected. It is only when we, as a team, have achieved this that any belief shifts – or updating – is possible. Therefore my work is tailored to each individual. To help you understand what that might mean for you I will give you three very general situations below and describe how, physically, we would work together.

1) The case where you have what I would deem a “simple” wiring issue (i.e. unpleasant or unwanted states keep getting triggered by life, you keep repeating the same pattern, or you are consistently not able to manifest something you would like to experience). In these instances the best work is done in one-to-one NLP coaching sessions. Following our strategy session (link) I would most likely ask you to make an appointment for a session (link). Most issues will take several session but I cannot tell you how many up front as it depends on many variables, such as how deeply intertwined the issue is with your identity – your sense of self in the world – and how many other issues, beliefs, or potential outcomes are linked. Following the session I will most likely send you away to integrate the change for at least 3-weeks before coming in again to see what’s what.

2) In the case where you are in the coccooning stage (William Bridges’ “Neutral Zone”) of a transition – the stage just before you zoom off into new beginnings and action land – the most difficult part of this stage is to accept the fact that this is where you are. No-one, but no-one, likes to be here. It’s uncomfortable, emotionally chaotic and can feel depressing especially for intelligent, high powered, professionals with a track record of achievement. One danger in this stage is getting stuck here, getting depressed and isolated (too much reflection or analysis paralysis), another danger is to try to short circuit the process and make the eventual and inevitable transition much more painful or dramatic. If you think you might be here, I would like to invite you to take the Transition Management Program and work with peers to hold this space in a deeper and more sophisticated way thus avoiding those two dangers.

3) Lastly, the case where you are in the stage where you are really making things happen. In this, somewhat enviable situation (everyone loves being here) an executive coaching package will help you achieve your goals and create a kind of platform from which the next transition will feel more like a mere evolution rather than a crisis. Clients in this stage utilize a combination of phone strategy sessions to brainstorm new ideas and maintain accountability, and the personally deeper NLP coaching sessions to gain new insights and perspectives and learn how to make their best even better. There is an incredible and energizing power in having a team of people behind you and with you, following and witnessing your story as well as occasionally researching and locating appropriate resources for you on your journey.

Not sure where you are or what kind of package would be appropriate? Good. Let’s set up an appointment for a strategy session and figure it out together. (link)

Guiding Beliefs:

1) Transition is cyclical in nature.

Change comes in cycles, just like the seasons, the phases of the moon, night and day. There are business cycles, life cycles…

Mastery of the transition process is not about eliminating the cycle or trying to be constantly achieving, it’s about being able to know and trust ourselves at a very deep level.

As the song goes we “gotta know when to hold, know when to fold, know when to walk away, know when to run.”

2) There is a dance between deep inner work and action – going out into the world and doing something, anything, basically having experiences. If you do both, you increase the probability of attaining your desires and becoming ridiculously happy and successful. If you do one without the other you stay stuck: too much reflection and you get depressed, isolated, and paralysed. Too much action and you feel like you are just a hamster in a wheel repeating the same patterns and probably destroying your health. (link to loop-de-loop article)

3) Every behavior has a positive intention for the part of that person responsible for that behavior.

Firmly holding this classic NLP pre-supposition (link to VG) allows me to treat my clients as full partners in exploration, and to ground myself in the belief that they are intelligent beings who probably know what to do to resolve an issue, but what they cannot know – because safety structures are designed to be invisible – is why they haven’t done it already.

4) Our beliefs create our experience, and our experience creates our beliefs

insert belief—-> experience—->diagram (reference Robert Fritz)

So we can always, yes always, find evidence in our experience that our beliefs are true. So if we would like to change our experience we must change our minds – our beliefs – about ourselves and the way the world works. If we want to change our beliefs, we must change our experiences. This is why all my programs have an action component as well as a refection/mind changing component.

5) There is no such thing as failure, only feedback.

We are learning machines. The best way to learn is to not only be willing to learn but to seek it. Adopting the belief set that frames failure as just one step on the path to success creates the critical resilient mindset. (link to free product)

My Uniqueness:

I do not know anyone else who has even a remotely similar depth and breadth of experience in both business management and NLP change-work. (link to bio)

However, my clients tell me that I have no idea about my real uniqueness and it has nothing to do with my experience. They tell me my real uniqueness is my ability to see the unseen, to take seemingly random pieces of information that they have given me, and to put them together and show them their life and what is running below the surface that causes the surface to look the way it does.

Next Step:

Curious to learn more about what I offer? Click here for the Services Overview (link)